Over-powering and Intimidating

by Alex Hutchins

Crime: having the audacity to make someone who is smart, influential, and wealthy look ridiculous.

All of us at some point-in-time have had the opportunity to encounter, whether it be male or female, someone who possessed and demonstrated the characteristics of being over-powering while at the same time intimidating.  Taken separately, these two are formidable but not devastating as would be the case in a relationship, especially if they had a dysfunctional upbringing during their adolescence.

Have you ever gone for a walk in the park or around the neighborhood where you live with your significant other, only to discover that instead of walking together, they have to walk just a little bit ahead of you?  It is not just going for a walk as this same behavior happens anytime the two of you are in public.

Have you ever been making love with your significant other, only to discover that instead of behavior that is directed towards the satisfaction of both, it is one-sided and directly totally towards their satisfaction?  It is not just making love but anytime the two of you attempt to do something together – the world must revolve around this other person and if it doesn’t, then you are the one who has ruined it.

Have you ever been with someone who is returning a purchased item to the store and the return is being refused and an argument ensues and does not stop until the store back’s down and accepts the returned merchandise?  As you know and can well imagine by know, this behavior continues and is exhibited in all interactions in which this person is involved including family, friends, and work.

Now, take this same person, male and female, and put them into a position of power and influence – the result is somewhat alarming for all those who come into contact with the person; but, this person is typically completely oblivious to their actions and cannot understand why some people stay away from them because their personalities are always CHARMING while boarding on flirtatious, flattery, and friendliness.

Unfortunately, it is usually these types of people that get ahead in our society because they have demonstrated time and time again that they always get what they want, not necessarily what they deserve while the rest of us pay the price for their assertive aggressiveness which is how they would like to be perceived or in some cases actually see themselves as standing up for their rights. 

But, if you have ever had to work with or for or live with one of these people, then your perceptions, no doubt, will be completely different and therein lies the gap that is so critically destructive because of its subtle verbal abusive nature.

These types of people are also quite manipulating wanting to arrange outcomes to suit their preferences; for example, arranging events, reunions, weddings, and holidays to revolve around their lives or the life of another if they find themselves in a position of coordinating the event or activity and no doubt they have volunteered for that assignment because of an inner perception that they are adept at drawing people together.  It is typically for this reason and this reason alone that holidays are ruined; yet, no one wants to assume the task of telling these people the truth which enables it to be self-perpetuating.

Fortunately, most human beings think with the heart and we embrace our loved ones for who they are and not for what we want to them to be and become like them.

Warren Buffett

As far as work is concerned, I suggest you find another job.

As far as politics is concerned, I suggest you exercise your right to vote.

As far as business is concerned, I suggest you buy the stock.

You Know the Type . . .