Yielding, Capitulation,
Acceptance,Consent, Compliance, "Submission to Authority"...
all these words deal with submission... even though, the actual
definition of the word submission is: the action or fact of
accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority
of another person.
This is the
foundation of our military, the foundation of our businesses and
industries, the foundation of our spirituality, religion, faiths, and
beliefs, the foundation of our prison system, school system, law
enforcement system, our governmental and judicial systems.
In fact, our
entire society is based and predicated upon, at least in part, upon
submission; and yet, sexual submission is rather a taboo subject when
it refers to female submission and completely off limits when we are
addressing male submission which technically, should not exist at
all.
Well... male
submission does actually exist all the time actually, but not in a
sexual way... so, let's get that straight from the getgo.
Let's start
gradually with professional sports or any kind of athletic sport for
that matter whether it is a group activity or an individual activity.
One team or one individual submits to the power and control of the
other team or individual if and when a loss occurs or vice versa if
there is a win
A building
contractor submits his/her ability to the architect who drew up the
blueprints or to the home owner who hired the contractor to build
their house. The building contractor does not build the house the
way he/she wants to build it but gives up that control and becomes
submissive and builds according to their will.
If we are driving
our vehicle on city streets, county streets, or Federal highways we
submit ourselves to following the traffic laws or we runs the risk of
being stopped by a law enforcement person and being given a ticket.
However, we could
exercise our dominance over the law enforcement person and try to get
that person to submit to us by exceeding the speed in their presence
which none of us, at least willingly, are crazy enough to do; and
yet, when there is no law enforcement person in view, we all readily
admit taking back control of our lives and driving our cars faster
than the recommended speed limits.
But are these not the definitions of
being submissive?
Most of us by now
have seen the movie, “50 Shades of Grey,” or at
least heard about it and have convinced yourself that you are either
like that or not like that at all... if you are a female; but, if
you are a male, you are declaring very emphatically that something
like this would never, in your wildest states of drunken fantasy (if
you were a drinker) ever take place with you...
and yet, those
same males who make that claim submit themselves to authority all the
time and almost everyday of the week if you are working, especially
if you are an entrepreneur or own your own business.
Again you say I am
crazy and threaten to report me to the authorities so that the will
stop me writing and publishing crazy stuff like this.
In the movie, the
female negotiated then was going to sign the contract (but I am not
sure if she ever did) just like you negotiate and signed a contract
with your boss, or employer, or client agreeing to follow a specific
set of rules, guidelines, and/or specifications.
In building a
house for example, all you really have to do is follow the “building
codes,” even though you know that in certain areas those codes
are weak and should be stronger... but you say and do nothing...
I was once told by
a law enforcement person who was teaching a law enforcement class at
the Community College where I was working that 90-95% of the traffic
tickets written to drivers could be beaten if they decided to go to
court and fight the ticket; but, many do not, especially those who
live out-of-State. And, those that do, have to fight it, to reduce
their points, in order to keep driving.
The rest of us are
just being voluntarily submissive which was the entire premise of the
movie, 50 Shades of Grey.
So, let's remove any type of physical contact or sex from the
equation and see how this might relate to how we live our lives.
We are still submitting ourselves to authority, control, and/or to
someone's dominance over us!
No way José, you say!
In fact, it is much worse that you first imagine because in previous
articles that I have written about Management I have mentioned
numerous times where some Managers use fear of being fired to get
their subordinate to:
- violate their morals
- violate their ethics
- violate their integrity
- violate their religious beliefs
How is this even
possible, if we were not being submissive?
- No, not really... we were just following orders given to us by our boss.
- The sexual submissive just follows order given by their boss.
- But, we had agreed, did we not, to remove connections to sex... so,
- The submissive just follows orders given by their boss.
Other than saying, it is just not the same... what is the difference
here? I am more than confident that many people will find clever
ways of responding to this to demonstrate that work submission is not
the same as sexual submission because it is work basically not sex.
However, there is a submissive situation but in this sexual context
where the two participants do not have sex at all. The person in
charge tell the submissive to sit beside them on the floor while they
are reading a book or newspaper or whatever. The submissive must
make the food, serve the food, clear the table, clean the dishes, and
if the submissive is allowed to eat, must eat at another table. The
only sexual issue here is that the submissive must do all of this
nude. But, under no circumstance are there any sexual relations
between these two participants.
Except for being nude, it sounds like what I hear that most marriages
turn into after 10 or so years of being together. LOL...
Our world and at all levels, is filled with an over abundance of
willing and voluntary submission and it is completely an acceptable
form of behavior for the most part... until we come in contact with
a Rebel who does not want to follow our submissive rules. We label
that person a “loose cannon,” and try our best to remove
them from the submissive mix of our employees as quick as we can so
that his influence on the others will be minimized.
- We accept torturous forms of submission in our prisons
- We accept torturous forms of submission from those capture in a military conquest
- We expect complete compliance with all Government Regulations
- We expect complete compliance with all Traffic Laws
- We expect employees to voluntarily follow the rules
- We expect managers to voluntarily make sure employees follow the rules
Do we even need to
explore the psychology of submission now?
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